Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Please send encouragement to this sister in arms

So, I was in Beaufort, SC, this past weekend interviewing a young female Marine for my next book, When the Girls Come Marching Home. I want to tell you a little bit about her in the hopes that you will shoot off an e-mail to her with a word or two of encouragement. She's a good person who has had it rough. She has a beautiful smile and can light up a room with it. Amidst great sorrow, I saw that smile this past weekend. Incredible!

Stacy is a young black woman from Detroit. She joined the Army reserves. Served two one-year, back-to-back tours in Iraq. In other words, she was in Iraq for two years straight. She lost a couple of buddies over there. By the middle of her second tour, she didn't have much left to give. She came back to the States, got out of the Army, and spiraled into drugs and alcohol. When she hit bottom, she joined the Marine Corps to save her life. So far so good.

This past weekend, the night before I met her, her Marine boyfriend was at a party. Another male Marine, thinking his gun was empty, put it to Stacy's boyfriend's head and shot him. When I met Stacy, she had just come from the hospital. They had taken her boyfriend off life support. He died soon after.

You can reach Stacy at ---
litediamond21@yahoo.com

Please reach out to her. She needs your thoughts, prayers, and kind words.
She has a light within her. Help her keep it lit in these tough times!!

thank you!
kirsten

Female Service members -- Is the Price to High??

I just received an e-mail and wanted to get your input.

The writer acknowledges that women are capable of serving in combat, but wonders if the price is too high? "I think about their priceless children and the sacrifices they are forced to make while their parent(s), sometimes both of them, are in Iraq. We have not yet seen how children are affected and if they will ever heal from it all. What will surface in later life for the children? I have seen the effect of an abusive childhood. Will the stress these children are in be even more devastating?"

The writer goes on to say that while the legacy of the Iraqi war will be that women are very able to do whatever they are called to do, it will also show that sending women off to war is just too devastating on the children.

Finally, she notes that women are 40 percent more likely to experience the devestating ramifications of combat than men. I don't know where she got this figure and whether it's true. But it raises the question of whether women are more vulnerable and less resilient to the horrors of war.

Hope you will weigh in on this discussion. I don't have the answers but I think it's interesting and important to explore.

Are you a mom who served in combat? How did your deployment positively or negatively impact your children?

And do you feel that you suffer from your experiences on the battlefield more than your brothers in arms who have had similar experiences.

Take good care!
kirsten

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Her body came home but her mind didn't

I got an e-mail recently from a young female soldier who served in Iraq from 2005-06. She writes that since returning from Iraq she has had a major breakdown which has cost her her career in the service. She takes at least six pills a day to control her anxiety and mood shifts and the pain in her leg and back. She takes pills to sleep through the nightmares. Her son was five months old when she deployed. He was a year and a half old when she returned. She still can’t relate to him, her husband, and her extended family after being back for two years. Mentally, she says she’s a mess from the war. She feels alone and doesn’t know who to turn to. She says a lot happened over there in Iraq while she was patrolling and transporting military supplies up and down the roads in Iraq. Sometimes being the only female on missions was a challenge in itself. She goes on to list other challenges ... rape, assaults, suicide, and the death of her battle buddy. Her body came home but her mind didn’t.

“I go to the VA for help but they just give me medications and really don't talk to me or listen to how I am feeling. I wish I could just be normal again or have that part of me whole and complete again.”

“Everyday is a struggle for me. I have to put on a fake smile and act like everything is okay when really it's not. I'm fighting a daily war within myself.”

Anyone listening????????????????????
Please post your suggestions.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Onslow County Public Library


Thank you to the Onslow County Public Library (Karen Moore) for hosting a Band of Sisters reception in June and to Camp Johnson (LtCol Mike Cordero) for their support of women Marines.

kah

Thursday, July 10, 2008

San Diego--MCRD, the USS Midway, and more



Hi everyone,

Just back from a wonderful visit to southern California. As usual, the Marine Corps Recruit Depot in San Diego put on a fantastic reception for me and Band of Sisters. Sorry I don't have any photos from that event. I was too busy talking to take photos.

I spent July 4 on the USS Midway. July 4 was also the one-year anniversary of Band of Sisters, so I had a couple of things to celebrate that day.

One of the main reasons for my visit to San Diego was to interview women for my next book. That went very well. I interviewed two female Marines (Sgt. Shannon Evans from Miramar) and SgtMajor Irene O'Neal from Camp Pendleton) and two Sailors (Commander Lenora Langlais and Corpsman Elaine Snavely) who will be featured in When The Girls Come Marching Home.

Our female servicemembers continue to inspire me on a daily basis.

Talk soon!
best,
kirsten

Sunday, June 8, 2008

Gunny (Rosie) Noel Goes to Washington




This past week (June 4-8) I traveled to Washington and Annapolis to sign books at the Pentagon and do research for my next book. Initially, I was going alone. While talking to Gunny (Rosie) Noel the week before I left, I told her it would be nice to have her at the Pentagon signing. Next thing I knew she was spending the week with me. I couldn’t have been happier.
June 4—We signed for a few hours at the Pentagon. As usual, the staff in the clothing store were great hostesses, and Rosie and I met a lot of awesome service members. Then we got on the metro and rode it for one stop to Arlington National Cemetery. We were on our way to the Women’s Memorial. Before we got to the Memorial we stopped inside the building that houses the visitor’s area at Arlington Cemetery. While we were there, the sky opened up. The rain and wind were intense, and we were trapped, along with hundreds of teenagers. It was a fieldtrip gone bad, and we were right smack in the middle. By the time we left, Noel had a migraine from the teenagers talking loudly and fooling around. Exacerbating her headache was the lack of respect that the teenagers seemed to be showing for the deceased service members. The Gunny did her best to shut them down but was outnumbered. However, she and the guards were on the same page and the guards did their best to control the crowd. Fortunately, the storm let up and we high tailed it to the Women’s Memorial. At the Memorial, I especially liked looking at the photos of the American female service members throughout the years and the memorabilia from previous wars.
June 5—Noel and I went to Walter Reed. I had scheduled interviews with members of the medical staff who treated Major Tammy Duckworth’s war wounds. The staff spoke so highly of her. She sounds too good to be true. Most people know that Duckworth is a highly motivated individual. How else could she have gone through what she went through and serve as Director of Veteran’s Affairs for the State of Illinois? But what many may not know is how generous she is when it comes to motivating others, i.e., not only the wounded but also the staff of Walter Reed. So what motivates Duckworth? How did she get from the ICU at Walter Reed to her current role? What’s her passion? Stay tuned. Thank you to Pat C, Bunny, Kristi, Harvey, and Mike for all you do and for spending time with me. One other tidbit—I had the pleasure of meeting two peer volunteers who visit the wounded at WR. In order to visit an amputee, you have to be an amputee yourself. The gentleman who visited Tammy a day after she arrived in the ICU is 79 years old and lost both legs in Korea. God bless him and peer volunteers everywhere. You know when this man walks into the room of an amputee, he is a source of great inspiration.
While I was doing my interviews, Noel met Commander Necia Williams for the first time. Williams is the anesthesiologist who gave the order to anesthetize Noel after she was wounded at Al Asad by an indirect fire. They hadn’t seen each other in several years, since that day in triage in Iraq.
That evening, Noel and I went to dinner with Nancy and Virginia in Shirlington. Nancy and Virginia were both Marines who now work for the protocol office for the Commandant of the Marine Corps and in supply admin, respectively. Noel shared her story .., There I was riding my Bike. And Nancy and Virginia talked about their days in the Marine Corps.
June 6—Bethesda—I had another interview for my next book. This time I interviewed Ciara Cook, an E5 in the Navy. Any guesses as to her occupation? Culinary Services. Cook worked as a guard in a detention facility in Iraq.
Noel met up with Commander Williams again and was introduced for the first time to Lieutenant Commander J. Hernandez, a certified registered nurse anesthetist, and Captain William Liston (doc). Williams gave the order to anesthetize Noel. Hernandez actually gave her the juice. Liston is the doctor who removed the shrapnel from Noel’s face in Al Asad. Liston took a moment at Bethesda to examine Noel’s scar and was impressed with how it had healed. Williams, Hernandez, and Liston all recall the Gunny arguing with them because she just wanted them to stitch her up and send her back to her troops. They wanted to (and did) send her onto Balad. However, within 24 hours Noel was back with her troops. Liston recalled that even while she was on lying down on a bed in triage, Noel was worried about everyone else except for herself. It was moving to see all of these folks meeting for the first time back in the States. It’s not every day that a surgeon gets to see a patient he worked on in Iraq—nearly three years later.
June 7—Play day in downtown Annapolis. Gunny goes crazy buying gifts for everyone. She did get a very cool gift from me, though. It’s a T-shirt that reads—Scars are tattoos with better stories. She should know. 

Monday, May 26, 2008

Memorial Day--Remember the Fallen!!!

Today I've been working on my next book, When the Girls Come Marching Home. It's a good day to be writing about women in combat. About 100 American women have been killed in Iraq and Afghanistan. We need to remember them as we honor all of the fallen today. We need to remember they are in the fight and they too are making the ultimate sacrfice on the battlefield.

I'm writing a story about a female JAG officer whose Humvee was hit by an IED. Three of the five soldiers in the Humvee were killed. It's a good day to remember CPL Coty J. Phelps, CPL Victor Fontanilla, and SFC Jesse Albrecht. And to remember those who survived and struggle with how to move on after they've been through such a traumatic experience. Another woman I'm writing about was in the Lioness convoy back in the summer of 2005 that got hit by a suicide bomber, killing and wounding male and female Marines. And yet another watched as an EOD tech was blown up by an improvised explosive.

Our service members are dying every day in Iraq and Afghanistan, and the ones who love them are dying a little, too. Remember those who have died, their families, and friends. Honor them. They deserve it!